Friday, February 12, 2010

I've been sitting on this one for a long time

Do what you want. Have a million babies. But don't parade your premature daughter on the cover of people alongside Heidi Montag's freakish face. And don't expect not to be judged for your 19 children on some level, be it resource consumption, arrogance, or flaunting your fertility in the face of millions of reproductively challenged people.

They pushed me over the edge with this. I don't want to risk having another child because my first and only was a preemie, I'm almost 40, and those two things together elevate my risk of having another preemie. I feel that foreknowledge of that possibility makes it an ethical choice: I refuse to subject my family, my child, and the system to another premature baby. I love the one I have; I don't want to do it again.

Heck, I don't have 19 friends that I could call close. How well can you even know your own children at this point?

But that's just snark, isn't it...

1 comment:

jlw said...

after reading your blog and then going to the linked article, I ended up here. The author has some complementary arguments and comes to the same conclusions as you, but from within or on the margins now of the quiverfull movement.